IN MEMORIAM: The Rev. H. King McGlaughon, Jr. ‘89


The Rev. Hugh King McGlaughon, Jr., Class of 1989, of Winston Salem, NC, died on Wednesday, May 21,2014 after a short but courageous battle with lung cancer. McGlaughon was also a former member of the GTS faculty. McGlaughon was born in Rocky Mount, NC on March 17, 1952. He was the son of Hugh K. McGlaughon, Sr. and Jane Dickie McGlaughon, now both deceased.  His early years were spent growing up in Raleigh, NC.  His family moved to Jacksonville, NC. where he graduated from Jacksonville high School in 1970 and was awarded a full Morehead Scholarship to attend The University of North Carolina, Chapel Hill.  After excelling in his undergraduate career McGlaughon was admitted to the University of North Carolina Law School, where he was Editor of the UNC Law Review his final year.  During this time he also played saxophone in a local band, ‘Nantucket Sleigh Ride,’ that toured with Janis Joplin.

After practicing law for a decade, McGlaughon and the Episcopal Diocese of East Carolina discerned his call to ordained ministry.  McGlaughon and his family moved to New York City in 1986 and he began his studies at General.  During his career at General Seminary, he was Seminarian at the Parish Church of Trinity Wall Street and St. Paul’s Chapel. Graduating Summa Cum Laude in 1989 McGlaughon was invited by the faculty to stay on as a full doctoral fellow to study and teach in the areas of Systematic Theology and Ethics.  He was also Curate at Grace Church, Newark, NJ.  It was during these years that King met his life partner, (The Rev.) John H. Conners, GTS Class of 1990.  Given the ongoing discourse about sexuality in the Episcopal Church, after completing his course work and teaching for two years, McGlaughon was forced to move on without ever finishing his doctoral dissertation.

McGlaughon was invited by the Diocese of East Carolina to move ‘back home’ and become the interim Canon to the Ordinary (assistant to the bishop) of the diocese, fulfilling these duties with dignity, grace, and skill.  Of his many accomplishments during those two years, none was dearer to his heart than the role he played in the founding of St. Francis by the Sea in Salter Path, NC.  Again, the Episcopal Church’s ongoing discourse and disagreement about issues of sexuality led McGlaughon to move out of the Diocese of East Carolina to Indianapolis, IN where he began to work at Renaissance Charitable Foundation along with part time duties at St. Paul’s Episcopal Church, Meridian Street, Indianapolis.  After a short time at Renaissance,McGlaughon was invited by Merrill Lynch Trust in Princeton, NJ to head their Center for Philanthropic and Non-Profit Services, a position he held for 9 years.  During his years at Merrill Lynch Trust, McGlaughon became a highly sought after speaker for many conferences and donor events in the financial services sector.

This led him to a new career adventure after he left Merrill Lynch Trust when he accepted the position as the first person to hold the newly endowed Bill and Sally Wallace Chair in Philanthropic Studies at The American College in Bryn Mawr, PA.  After a year of teaching and developing the curriculum for the new program, McGlaughon was invited to also become Dean of the College.  He gladly accepted and served as both Dean and instructor until he was called back home to North Carolina at Wachovia Bank and Trust in Winston Salem.  He took great pride in being a Sr. Vice President of the bank that his father, Hugh Sr., had worked at in Raleigh when King was a child.

But in 2008 the banking industry changed and McGlaughon decided there was time and energy for one more adventure. McGlaughon accepted the position of CEO of Foundation Source in Fairfield, CT., bringing his unique combination of charm, wit, and business acumen to this position.  He worked for Foundation Source until just weeks before he found out that he had a particularly aggressive form of lung cancer.  He died peacefully just eight weeks later in the company of his family.

Last year, at a ‘by invitation only’ event sponsored annually by some of the recognized leaders in his field, he felt great pride when a number of his mentors from earlier days took the time to sit with him and tell him that when he entered the field of philanthropic services almost two decades earlier, his unique blend of lawyer, priest, and philanthropic services executive coupled with his skill as a speaker caused a major shift in the discourse of the entire philanthropic services industry.  Whenever McGlaughon spoke, it was clear to all present that he spoke about philanthropy as ‘ministry,’ It had been recognized as a necessary and positive shift in his the field.

But as proud as that industry recognition made him, his pride was never greater than the pride he held in his personal relationships; especially that with his relationship to The Rev. John H. Conners, his life partner of twenty-five years; his children Katherine McGlaughon Kilgariff, of Gibsonville, NC; R. Andrew McGlaughon of Charleston, SC; Benjamin D. McGlaughon of Ithaca, NY; their mother, Susan McFarland McGlaughon of Jacksonville, NC; their spouses Shaun Kilgariff, Laura Mills McGlaughon, and Jennifer Apger McGlaughon, his five grandsons; Hobbes Kilgariff, Finn Kilgariff, Emmett Kilgariff, Charlie King McGlaughon, Benjamin McGlaughon; his ‘step-son,’ Kenneth Conners; his brothers Jamie and David; and his many, many friends.

Memorial services for H. King McGlaughon will be held at 1 pm Friday, June 13th at St. Paul’s Episcopal Church, 520 Summit Street, Winston Salem.  The Rt. Rev. Peter J Lee will officiate and Dr. David Hurd of General Seminary in New York and Dr. John Cummins of St. Paul’s will be organists. A second memorial Service will be held at 11 am Saturday, June 28th at St. Paul’s on the Green Episcopal Church, 60 East Ave., Norwalk, CT.  Interment will follow at a later date at St. Francis by the Sea Episcopal Church, Salter Path, NC.

McGlaughon’s constant, abiding love for his family and friends, his deeply caring nature, and his larger than life presence insure that he will be dearly missed by all that knew him.

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May King’s soul and the souls of all the departed,

through the mercy of God,

Rest in Peace